Eat Many small Meals

Eating six small meals throughout the day, instead of three large ones – this can help to keep your blood sugar up and your mood elevated. What does this do for you? Well beside keeping your mood at a constant high, regulating your blood sugar so that it stays at a constant level throughout the day has also been shown to help speed up your metabolism and thus, help you lose weight. It will also lessen your body’s cravings for bad foods!

Reduce Bloating

• Eat potassium rich foods such as cranberries, bananas, mangoes,melons, papayas, potatoes, spinach, tomatoes and other fresh fruits. Potassium triggers the kidneys to excrete more sodium.
• Cut down your sodium intake to less than 2000 milligrams per day. Too much salt will cause water to be release into the skin, causing puffiness.
• Drink plenty of water. This will help to flush salt and other electrolytes out of your body, reducing water retention.
• If your bloating is really bad, water pills and diuretics could provide some relief also anti-gas pills.
• Get some aerobic excercise such as walking, biking, jogging, aerobics. When you get your body moving, it starts to actually use the food you have eaten and will get your bowels moving as well.
• Calcium pills, besides being a must for any women, will also help reduce water retention. You should be getting about 1,000 to 1,500 mg a day. So I would suggest getting the 1000mg pills and that way you won’t go over the limit with the foods you eat throughout the day. Do not go over 2,500mg a day! It’s also important to note that you need magnesium and vitamin D in order to absorb Calcium, so get calcium pills which include at leats one of these other vitamins.
• Dandelion leaf is a remedy for bloating caused by water retention. Taken after meals, it can help kidneys eliminate excess fluid. Dandelion leaf can be found at health food stores.

Controlling PMS

• Cut back on caffeine to feel less tense and irritable and to ease breast soreness.
• Cut out alcohol. Drinking it before your period can make you feel more depressed.
• Get plenty of sleep–about 8 hours a night.
• Keep to a regular schedule of meals, bedtime and exercise.
• Try to schedule stressful events for the week after your period. Okay, yes this is hard, but when you are faced with something stressful practice stress relieving exercises. These can be counting to ten, meditation, yoga, aerobic activity, or just doing something that relaxes you like painting, taking a bath, dancing, etc.
• Magnesium-rich chow (spinach, whole grains) and foods with omega-3 fatty acids (salmon, sardines, walnuts) will steady your nerves.

Other Foods For PMS Symptoms

• Vitamins A and D suppress the PMS symptoms of acne and oily skin. The food sources of vitamin A are cantaloupe, raw carrots, cooked sweet potatoes and spinach. In addition to getting Vitamin D from sunshine, it can be obtained from enriched milk and cereal.
• Vitamin B6 helps relieve premenstrual cravings, fatigue, mood swings, fluid retention and bloating. Vitamin B6 can be taken in supplements and by eating fish, eggs, nuts, bananas, potatoes, and the white meat of turkey and chicken.
• Valerian root is a remedy for mood swings, and irritability. Taken before bedtime, it can lower stress and promote sleep.
• Omega-3 Fatty Acids: Foods rich in the nutrient are known to be able to curb the mood swings that you experience during PMS. As such, foods such as ground flax seeds, avocados, salmon and sardines are good foods to eat during this time. Sardines are actually jam packed with not only essential fatty acids but also calcium:)

Well there you go! Now you can see how different foods, depending on the vitamins and minerals that they contain, can help relieve not only PMS mood swings but also cravings, cramps and bloating! Hope this was helpful your all of you! If you have any personal remedies or things that you do to help you when you’re on or getting your period, don’t be shy to leave a comment telling me about them!

Ok, so I say to myself that it is not Holly Wood that is directing my lack of self confidence and it is not the constant bombardment of stars that look like they just might be pro-Ana women in secret behind closed doors, that’s making me have to fight such an eternal battle with my body. Instead I say that I’m fighting because of medical problems which are creeping up more and more the closer you come to 30, 40 and 50. So I do have scoliosis, two herniated discs and sciatica, but I would be lying to myself and to everyone else if I said that I didn’t have alternative motives for wanting to lose the pounds.

Along with a back that hates the excess weight, comes along the utter disgust I feel when I look in the mirror or get the courage to venture to the mall to try on some new clothes. Also there’s the fact that my sex-drive seems to be void.

Now this is by far one of the hardest things to admit, I would say it’s even harder to admit than stating that one finds their body disgusting. Our media makes it seem as though everyone else is skiny, beautiful and absolutely loves to have sex, everyone that is except for the rest of us who aren’t on TV or walking the red carpet.

I was shifting through Sssh.com’s articles when I stumbled unto this one called ” Body Weight & Sex Drive”.  I decided to share it with all of you because it made me realize a couple of things for myself , which maybe on some unconscious level I already knew but was unwilling to admit to myself.  So without further ado, here it is:

“Many people that are heavier than they would like to be are able to maintain a ferocious sex drive.  Others are less fortunate and find that their drive tends to suffer after they have put on a few pounds.  I have had some of my dear friends express to me that this has happened to them.  I have also had some personal experience with this occurrence in the past.  These two things have led me to do some further research in this matter to share some facts and thoughts that may be found to be helpful.

-> The Duke University Medical Center reports that overweight adults that lose 10% of body weight report significant improvements on their sexual quality of life.

->A 2-year clinical trial of a prescription weight-loss medication involving 161 women and 26 men indicated:

• Feelings of being sexually unattractive

• Women were more likely to report problems than men

• Lack of sexual desire

• Reluctance to be seen undressed

• Difficulty with sexual performance

• Avoidance of sexual encounters

• Lack of enjoyment of sexual activity

-> During the 2-year study, the most notable improvements were seen after 3 months and with 11.8% weight loss.

After one year of the study:

Female Improvements:

• Feeling sexually unattractive ~ from 68% to 26%
• Individuals that had not wanted to be seen undressed ~ from 63% to 34%
• Difficulty with desire ~ from 39% to 15%
• Avoidance of sexual encounters ~ from 29% to 15%
• Not enjoying sexual activity ~ from 21% to 11%
• Difficult with performance ~ from 27% to 12%

Male Improvements:

• Individuals that had not wanted to be seen undressed ~ from 31% to 10%
• Difficulty with desire ~ from 23% to 10%
• Avoidance of sexual encounters ~ from 19% to 5%

The results of this study were presented at The Northern American Association for the Study of Obesity annual meeting held in Vancouver, B.C. on October 17, 2005.  “We saw very dramatic reductions in the number of people reporting difficulty following moderate weight loss. If people experience benefits and rewards from their weight loss and health efforts, it may help motivate them to continue a healthy lifestyle,” said the author.  Clinical experts seem to recommend losing weight in order to get back in the saddle.  Is weight gain and weight loss the “end all” conclusion?  I think not.

Don’t let Hollywood and the media fool you:

Physical beauty or what the media dictates to be physical beauty is not everything in the wonderful world of sex. Young girls make themselves sick to look like the women they see on television, in magazines, and on the movie screen, while older women are spending thousand dollars in surgery to do the same. How did we get here? There are so many men out there that actually appreciate the way a “real woman” looks. Beauty and art does not appear in one way! Olympia looked nothing like Paris Hilton. One of the most utopian aspects of life is variety, we must see so much more than we already do, not only in others but in ourselves. See yourself as beautiful and you are beautiful (and sexy). Feel sexy + act sexy = is sexy!!!!! You do not have to lose weight to feel better about yourself. Make the decision on your own just to feel better about yourself and celebrate who you are and your sex life will                                                                             flourish.

There is so much to sex….

Initial attraction, though fun, is such a small piece of the sexual puzzle. Once you have snatched someone (pardon the pun), enjoy that someone. They are with you, therefore they are interested. We all need sex, so give in to that need. See yourself as a wondrous sexual giver and give, even if you do not think you feel like it. Like getting into a swimming pool, though you may be hesitant at first, it often feels wonderful once you decide to give in. Let go of your self-conscious thoughts, they don’t do anyone any good and Just Do it as Nike says.

There are so many ways to be and feel sexual. So many senses are being used. Explore with more than just the visual. Take pleasure in using different smells, sounds, and sensations. Fragrance yourself in a long bath with sensual oils, make your body extra smooth, try some music or make your own sounds. If you want to continue to emphasize on the visual, continue to be beautiful even in the scale isn’t saying what you want it to. Everyone looks hot by candlelight, everyone can garnish themselves in a fetching way, and everyone has assets to use. Appreciate and utilize these amazing things and forget about what you thought were short comings. There not. If the person cannot see and appreciate the goddess in you, they are deaf, dumb, and blind.

Big and Beautiful:

Finally, people are recognizing that big IS beautiful. Models and actors that weigh more than ninety pounds are showing up more and more. Here are some cool links if you are, or looking for big and beautiful.

The Big & Beautiful People Network

Big Cupid

Whether you are looking to make some changes in your body, to love your body the way it is, or both, you do not have to get stuck in a sexual rut. Find ways to feel good about who you are, who you are with, and how it is to have sex. Try some new things to help with the desire and find beauty and sexuality in your partner. We are able to control much more than we think with our minds. We have practiced so long how to hate or dislike ourselves. Let’s now change that practice into loving ourselves and being the sexually creatures we strive to be!”

So As you can see Sssh.com offers some extremely valuable advice as well as giving us the connection between not just body weight and our sexual drive but more so our Body Image and our sexual desires. If it helps at all, we all know that sexual activities burn a hell of a lot of calories, so why not incorporate sex with our partner as part of our exercise routine? What I mean to say is that maybe having sex is the answer to not only make us feel sexier, (because who doesn’t feel sexy when their partner is showing them just how much they want them?) but also to helping us shed off those extras pounds! If you feel good about yourself much more changes than just your  confidence level. You will eat less, move more and hold your head up high. All of which in the long run encourage weight loss since good posture works more muscles and you won’t binge on food, like I do, when you’re feeling all down on yourself!

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We’ve all ventured into the world of skimpy, permanent wedgie underwear in an attempt to get rid of those VPLs (visible pantie lines). With new high tech undies now on the market, like the laser cut seamless underwear, we wonder if this is the end our much loved and hated whale tail thongs.

Types of Thongs

The word thong is  term used for a variety of tiny, zero coverage underwear styles, all of which involve little to no cloth covering your butt cheeks. I’m listing the three types of thongs here for you to also understand that each one is different than the other.

A classic thong is a simple piece of clothing. It has cloth on the rear that runs in a gradual triangle from the back edge of the hips to the center of the rear. The bottom point of this triangle then converts into a string like look and runs to the front of the body. Despite its name, this is one of the less popular choices for women when it comes to thongs.

A classic thong is a simple piece of clothing. It has cloth on the rear that runs in a gradual triangle from the back edge of the hips to the center of the rear. The bottom point of this triangle then converts into a string like look and runs to the front of the body. Despite its name, this is one of the less popular choices for women when it comes to thongs.
The g-string is perhaps the most famous of the thongs. Most people use the two names interchangeably, but the g-string is in fact a subset of the general thong category. The average g-string is tiny. It has a band around the hips and a tiny triangle patch of cloth on the back where the band meets the vertical string that runs between the buttocks.. This string is snug, which leads to an uncomfortable sensation for more than a few women.
The t-string is the most aggressive form of the thong. It is a classic example of less is more. In this case, we are talking less coverage. The t-string is essentially a string that runs horizontally around the body at hip level. In the front we find a triangle of clothing covering the pubic area with a string running from it under the buttocks and up to the horizontal band circling the hips. There is no cloth at all in the rear area, which gives the piece its name.

History of the Whale Tail

If you haven’t heard Sisqo’s ” Thong Song” then either your radio is broken or you are truly out of the pop culture loop. This catchy pop song has had people of all ages singing about the most popular and skimpy piece of clothing of the past couple of years… the thong, th- thong, thong thong.

Although the Thong has been extremely popular in Brazil for ages, in the US and Canada, it only seemed to be exotic Dancers who first caught on to the trend. Tourists would go to Brazil, buy a thong bathing suit there, and only wear it on the gorgeous beaches of Brazil because this article of clothing was a bit too scandalous for North America. It drove men wild that women in Brazil were so unashamed of their bodies that they would wear thongs as bathing suits and this kind of explained why it was so popular with exotic dancers here, who drove the men even crazier by being some of the only American women to sport the sexy little piece of cloth.

The lead-up to the thong’s run began more than three decades ago. In the ’80s, Jane Fonda became a leotard-clad fitness guru, inspiring women to strip down and get fit. “This built a momentum,” says Jill Fields, PhD, author of An Intimate Affair: Women, Lingerie, and Sexuality. “In a few years, the idea of fitness became normal, and the everyday woman wanted to show off her aerobicized body.” As a result, women started dressing in clingier, more revealing clothing to accentuate the tight backsides they had earned in step class. Not only did this call for an undergarment that would eliminate the dreaded visible pantie line (VPL), but a skimpy thong was also in keeping with the supersexy sensibility (i.e., casual sex) that dominated the era.

The thong made its way into more and more women’s wardrobes and, in 1995, truly had its coming-out party. That’s when Victoria’s Secret put on its first-ever public runway show, and lingerie became visible in a way it never had been before. “Underwear fashion shows have been around since the 1930s,” says Fields, “but back then, it was a private trade show that only undergarment buyers could attend.” After the whole world saw that, yes, Heidi and Tyra were flossing, demand for the thong skyrocketed. “Retailers responded by turning them out in an array of fabrics and colors,” says Fields. “And denim brands like Juicy Couture and Frankie B began to cut jeans superlow for the sole purpose of exposing the cute new designs.”

Two highly publicized events helped grant the thong its iconic status. First, frisky President Bill Clinton was busted for fooling around with White House intern Monica Lewinsky, and one of the juiciest tidbits Monica confessed was that she had seduced him by flashing her thong. Soon after, Britney Spears solidified her status as pop’s steamiest act by performing in a rhinestone thong under sheer pants at the 2000 MTV Video Music Awards. The hot factor of the T-shaped undie had reached an all-time high.

How Low Can You Go?

Flash-forward about five years. The power coupling of the thong and the low-cut jean came down with a severe case of overexposure. In keeping with the backlash that most big trends experience, fickle designers got sick of seeing everyone’s straps. “Jeans had been cut all the way down to the pubic bone,” says Gillian Proctor, program leader for contour fashion at De Montfort University in the United Kingdom and coauthor of A Century of Style: Lingerie. “There was no place for the waistband to go but up.” Suddenly, if your thong was showing, it meant it was time for you to update your denim to one of the new higher-rise styles.

And for those of us whose thong addiction had more to do with banishing VPLs than keeping up with fashion, an alternative popped up: NVPLs, the industry-wide acronym for undies with no visible pantie lines. Available in styles ranging from standard briefs to boy shorts, NVPLs are made with ultrathin fabric (usually mesh) and cut with a laser, a technique that melts the material so that the edge has a smooth, seamless finish. This ensures that it’s invisible under even your tightest pencil skirts or bandage dresses.

The fact that the one advantage the thong had over all other styles of underwear has now been completely eliminated puts a major, er, crack in the thong’s appeal.

Unleash Those Cheeks

Like Monica and Britney, a huge contingent of thong fans loved that the minimalist look was considered so sexy. But another saucy style is gaining ground as the undie with the most erotic allure: The butt-hugging boy short (with or without NVPL technology) is the new craze. “Sales of our boy shorts are more than double our thong sales,” says Ali Mejia, creative director and cofounder of Eberjey, a lingerie line sold at Shopbop and Saks Fifth Avenue. Guido Campello, vice president of branding and innovation for lingerie line Cosabella, confirms the trend: “Our boy short is our fastest-selling item,” he says, “and women have told us guys absolutely love it.”

No doubt, male fans appreciate the fact that boy shorts make our asses look so amazing. Let’s face it, unless you’re blessed with Gisele–like DNA, it’s likely that a string bisecting your backside wasn’t doing your figure any favors. Most boy shorts have a seam running down the middle of the butt, which accentuates the curvature of the bum for any body, giving the illusion of a Kardashian–style keister, says Campello. And even seamless boy shorts enhance your bootyliciousness by exposing the very bottoms of your cheeks. “For a man, seeing that part of the buttocks is a great turn-on,” says Daniel G. Amen, MD, author of Sex on the Brain. “His mind wants to fill in the rest of the picture.”

The final thing the boy short has going on that the thong doesn’t? It doesn’t give you a permanent wedgie — it’s actually comfortable. And can we just say boo-yah to that?

sources: The Thong Is Dead!, The Different Types of Thongs in Fashion, History of the Thong,

In this day and age, online dating has lost the taboo that once came with it and instead of being looked at as a desperate attempt to find a partner, it is now being embraced as yet another part of everyday life. Just because it is no longer full of stereotypes does not mean that it is not still as dangerous as it was when it first became popular. Online dating can be a fantastic way to meet new people and even your soul mate but there are many precautions that one should take when thinking about starting to try online dating as well as when you first decide to meet your new friend in person. Hopefully by the end of this article you’ll understand why these precautions are necessary and you will use this advice yourself. As with everything in this world, your number one priority should always be to take care of yourself and make sure that you are safe.

Setting up an Account:

When you first decide to join an online dating site the best piece of advice to take is to make a separate email account dedicated to your online dating social life. If you don’t then you may find that the next morning after having registered at a dating site, your inbox is full to the brim with spam. Many of these sites will not only spam you with junk mail but will spam you with emails about their site. This one reason that it is easier to have a separate email to use just for registering to these sites. Another good reason to have an email dedicated to this new social life, is so that you don’t have to worry about changing your main email if someone starts to become a hassle to you.

Be wary of someone who insists on exchanging emails at the very first contact that you make with them. This is a good sign that you’ll end up with tons of spam the next time you check your inbox. Along with marketing scams I should mention that if at any point in time someone asks you for money or any personal information you should be on alert. There are just as many con and scam artists on these sites as there are people lying about not being married!

Sketchy Characters:

Speaking of married people there are a few tell tale signs that can let you know whether your new friend is possibly married or is just a sketchy character to begin with. The first sign is for them to ask you for your phone number but then not give you theirs is return. Irregular and hurried calls can be a big neon sign pointing to the fact that something is not right with this scenario as well.  A failure to share their last name with you once you have given yours or just asked is another sign to be wary of as well as them not giving any or giving very few details about their friends, family and past relationships.

First Phone Calls:

So you are at that point in your online relationship that you both want to talk to each other on the phone. My advice would be to make the first phone call short and sweet. Why you ask? Because getting into the habit of having long regular phone calls with your potential new partner could mean that the spark you both felt, once you meet face to face will be gone. If you form a solid relationship over the phone, the excitement of meeting them face to face might be a quarter of what it could have been had you guys not gotten into the habit of already talking everyday. Save the daily phone calls for after you meet and are sure that there is something between the two of you. So keep the conversation casual, keep the deep meaningful ones like childhood experiences, life goals and so on for the fact to face time!

In order to protect yourself from a potential stalker it is advised that you use a cell phone, pay phone or borrow a friend’s phone to make your first calls to your new friend. They will still be able to find your personal information with just a cell phone number but it is a little harder than if you give them your land line number. Worse comes to worse use your phone’s blocking system to block out your number. You might think that this is a little extreme or rude but it isn’t. Your safety is always your first priority and if your friend turns out to be a great person

Meeting in Person:

There are some basic and simple guidelines on how to ensure your safety when first meeting your new online friend in person. Firstly ask your friend if they would mind a double or group date for your first face to face contact. You are always safer in groups. If that does not appeal to you than make sure that your evening or date plans involve public places. Never let yourself be alone with the person on your first date. If you decide to forgo the group date idea then make sure you have an exit strategy. Firstly make sure at least two good friends know where you are going and at what time. Never meet a stranger without having people know where you are! Also have a friend call you at a designated time or call them from the bathroom to check up with them. If things are going badly you can have them come pick you up. And by badly I don’t mean that your date is boring. Even if he is boring you should stick around out of respect but if he seems off in some way or sketchy, it’s time to execute your exit strategy at once.

On that note if your date is boring or not at all what he seemed like online when you chatted give him a chance. Many people are themselves online but find it hard to be comfortable around new people in person. So ride it through, pretend that he’s charming even if he’s not and you may just be surprised how he opens up.

A good trick that I personally used to use is to wear your ugliest pair of granny panties. This is not to make you feel un-sexy but rather to ensure that you will not be tempted to jump into bed with the person.

Always carry a condom. Although you’re wearing your granny panties you should still carry a condom. If anything were to happen, you cannot count on your friend having protection on him, so be safe and carry a fresh condom in your wallet on purse at all times. If the condom has been in there for awhile replace it with a new one to make sure that it isn’t pierced or too old.

If at any point you don’t feel safe, trust your instincts and leave. It doesn’t hurt to be safe rather than sorry!

Hope this tips and tricks help you out as you discover the joy of online dating!

Sources:Calling Up Someone You Met Online Dating, Are You Dating Someone You Met Online?, 5 tips for dating someone you met online, Safety Precautions To Take Before Dating Someone You Met Online

I’ve searched around the net and put together some of my favorite recipes that I’ve tried out myself. So if you are looking for a cheap yet decadent way to pamper yourself just try out one of these awesome ideas!

Orange Cream Sugar Body Scrub

This recipe is great to remove dead skin and give your skin a healthy glow. The sugar contains glycolic acid and the cream is a source for lactic acid. Avoid irritated or broken skin areas.

Ingredients:
½ cup sugar
2 TBSP cream or whole milk
5 drops orange oil
1 cup olive, jojoba, or almond oil

Mix sugar, oil and cream together. Add orange oil after main ingredients are completely mixed. Apply to your body by starting at the feet and working your way up. Massage in a circular motion and leave it on for 10-15 minutes, then shower it off. This recipe is enough to make one full body treatment.

Lemon Head Sugar Body Scrub

This recipe is both cleansing and detoxifying. Lemon is very detoxifying to the body and will also help brighten the skin.

Ingredients:
½ cup sugar
10 drops lemon oil
or ½ a lemon freshly squeezed
1 cup olive, jojoba, or almond oil

Mix all ingredients together. Apply to your body by starting at the feet and working your way up. Massage in a circular motion, then shower it off. This recipe is enough to make one full body treatment.

Facial Cleanser

Ingredients:
White or brown sugar
Your favorite facial cleanser
Witch hazel
Water

Using your favorite daily facial soap, an easy, inexpensive facial scrub can be made by adding sugar. Simply add a teaspoon of either white sugar or brown sugar and massage it gently on your facial skin. Rinse with cool water and spritz your face with a ½ witch hazel and ½ water mixture.

Sugar is a natural and inexpensive way to include alpha-hydroxy acids in your skincare program. It produces glycolic acid, an alpha hydroxy acid, which is included in many skincare product lines. Today’s pricey beauty products that include sugar or alpha hydroxy acid, can be created inexpensively right at your kitchen table. You will experience all of the benefits without the inflated price.

Coffee & Brown Sugar Scrub

This coffee scented scrub will revitalize not only your skin but your mind!

Ingredients:

1/4 cup packed brown sugar
1/4 cup white sugar
3 TBS fresh coffee grounds
5 tsp almond oil
5 tsp jojoba oil
2 tsp honey
1 tsp vitamin E
1 tsp vanilla

Directions: Mix ingredients and use as a body scrub/exfoliator.

Lip Massage Sugar Scrub

Things You’ll Need:

• ½ tsp. granulated sugar
• Petroleum Jelly (Vaseline)
• 1 lip balm (Carmex)
• Toothbrush (new)
• Tissue

directions:

1-Remove all lipstick and liner from the lips with a gentle makeup remover.

2-Apply a liberal amount of Vaseline to a new, clean toothbrush

3-Dip the coated brush into the sugar, making sure that the jelly is completely coated

4-Gently massage the lips in a circular, back & forth motion with the sugar-coated balm for 1 to 2 minutes; focusing on the dry, chapped areas.

5-Remove the excess sugar and jelly with a warm, wet cloth

6-Apply the lip balm to your lips to provide moisture and prevent future peeling.

Hope you enjoy using these recipes on yourself as much as I have!

Some Important Facts and Numbers:

- about 50% of qll pregnancies within the U.S. are unintended

- Approximately 42% of those unintended pregnancies end in abortions

- A women who is sexually active for one year without using birth control has an 85% chance of becoming pregnant.

Women who go by the counting their days method tend to forget that ovulation can occur as early as a day after their period has ended. In truth we could say that there is one week within a month that it is safe to have sex without the risk of becoming pregnant but this isn’t always accurate. Sometimes your body can surprise you!

When Choosing to Use Birth Control:

Choosing a method of birth control is something that you should do with advice from your doctor. But you should do your own research into the subject before going to see your doctor in the first place. There are so many options out there so ask your friends, see what they use, ask their opinions on certain methods and ask your doctor what would suit you best!

Things to Think About:

-what methods seems most comfortable to you?

-are you ok with planning when to have sex?

- are you confortable with inserting a device inside of you? i.e a sponge, I.U.D?

- Is your partner comfortable using a condom?

-Have you been with your partner long enough to trust havign sex with him using one sole method of birth control/ protection?

- Are you forgetful, do you think you would be able to remember to take a pill everyday at the same time?

-Are you concerned about STDs?

- do you want to have children?

Natural Birth Control:

The most basic, natural type of birth control that you can practice is abstinence and natural family planning. Abstinence only works if you are completely abstinent from sex, no ifs ands or buts. Natural family planning, also know as the calendar method, is as said before pretty unreliable. Although these two methods are appealing because they are natural and do not include foreign objects or hormones, the fact remains that these are the least favorable methods of birth control.

I would recommend this type of birth control only when you are in a solid relationship and have already discussed having kids. Ideally you have both agreed that if it happens then so be it.

Condoms:

Ahhh condoms. Men always seem to shun them, but they are truly one of our best friends. They come in different shapes, sizes, colors and flavors and ultimately are about 85% effective in protecting us against unwanted pregnancies and STDs. There are new condoms out there which are not made of latex and have a very natural feel to them. I recommend trying them out if condoms are your preferred method of birth control. The issue that many people have is that their partners don’t want to wear one. If this is the case you should try out different kinds of condoms and see if there is one in particular that works for both of you. If not, and you are both committed to each other, then think about using a different method.

Another issue that can occur is the condom breaking. If this happens your best option is to go to a pharmacy and get the morning after pill without delay. There is no point in taking a chance. If the condom breaks when you are with a new partner or someone you don’t know that well you should get checked out by your doctor and have STD tests done.

The perks of using condoms is that they are relatively inexpensive and even free at some clinics. They are also available everywhere! So there is no reason to say ” oh I don’t have one”. Make him to buy some, not havign one on hand is no reason to risk yourself!

Female condoms are also available as well as spermicides. These two methods are however not nearly as effective as a male condom. A good idea though is to combine the use of a male condom and a spermicide.

Birth Control Hormones:

The birth control pill is about 95% effective in preventing unwanted pregnancies but it does not offer any protection against sexual transmitted diseases. If you are being sexually active with a new partner you should consider using both the pill as well as condoms.

Birth control pills allow women complete control over the possibility of pregnancy. Usually the pills are comprise of 21 active pills and 7 inactive (placebo) pills. The active pills have a combination of estrogen and progestin hormones. There are many different combinations for the pills, you can get high estrogen ones or very low dose estrogen ones so it is good to talk about these with your doctor and figure out together which ones would be best suited for you.

Some perks about these pills is that they can help regulate your period as well as alleviate menstrual cramps, PMS, migrains, heavy bleeding and even sometimes acne. There are side effects to consider as well though like weight gain, moodiness, high blood pressure, blood clots (especially in smokers), nausea, breast tenderness and irregular bleeding. Of course this isn’t to say that you will necessarily experience any of these side effects and even if you do, sometimes switching to lower dose pills will help.

Birth control shots are also now available. The problem with these is that they tend to last three months which can be great if you happen to be forgetful about taking your pills, but, on the other hand this means that if you have negative side effects you are stuck with them for three months. The shots should not be taken especially if you have a history of depression because they can worsen it.

There are other methods out there that I will not get into such as birth control patches. But there is plenty more information out there if you are interested in alternative methods of birth control!

Remember, there’s always a method that will be best suited to your body and lifestyle, it just takes a little time sometimes to find the one right for you! So don’t give up after trying one type of pill, instead talk to your doctor and find something else. In the end of it all it is well worth it to be protected against becoming pregnant when you really aren’t ready for children.

Sources:

“Birth Control Basics,” MayoClinic.com, February 2010.

“Birth Control,” Planned Parenthood, 2010.

“Types of Birth Control,” American Pregnancy Association, July 2003.

“Frequently Asked Questions,” Birthcontrol.com, 2010

My man and I have made a real effort recently to slow things down in the bedroom. We had noticed that the romance had seemed to have somehow just completely slipped away from us and so it was either that we were going to give in to the lack of romantic feelings in our relationship or try to rebuilt that fire which once burned so bright. One trick that we started to do was to keep our underwear on for as long as possible before having sex. We will just lie together, teasing each other with licks, caresses and kisses until we are both unable to stand it any longer. It reminds me a lot of when we were teenagers and would just make out for hours. Although we don’t do this for hours, we did notice the same types of feelings coming back to us as when we were young. Even when our underclothes come off, we do not proceed directly into the horizontal tango! Instead we enjoy each others bodies as much as we can.  So my advice to you is that if you are going to rush around, let yourself and your lover at least enjoy a bedroom where time is meaningless. Slow things down together, really take the time to enjoy the pleasure and ecstacy that are you giving each other.

So what I came to realize with a lot of my friends is that they would stay with these no good men for reasons unknown to me. Only later on did I figure out what all of these bad relationships had in common. They all involved men who would go down on their partners all the time and trully not want anything in return. Is this such a rare thing that when we find a man like this, it is hard to let him go regardless if he is really no good for us? Having been there myself, I would have to say yes. Maybe the men reading this should try to be more loving with their partners,  I guarantee it will make your relationship better.

If you cannot give oral pleasure to your loved one without getting an erection, then maybe go to the bathroom and pleasure yourself before you decide to give her a treat. Because nothing makes us fee more obliged to return the favor than a rock hard cock pressing against us.

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